tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.comments2016-11-21T13:29:48.799-05:00Triple The DadAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14674338920277176353noreply@blogger.comBlogger134125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-21146588937829370752016-11-21T13:29:48.799-05:002016-11-21T13:29:48.799-05:00I wonder too, if as a frequent third-party voter w...I wonder too, if as a frequent third-party voter who is often faced with two candidates who will do things I find to repugnant, or at the very least to be bad policy, if I'm not somewhat insulated.<br /><br />If your choice is racist Trump and his awful policies or not racist Hillary Clinton and her love all things good, her loss stings. If your choice is racist Trump and his awful policies or less awful Hillary Clinton and her different set of awful policies, maybe the loss is more like every other day.Triplethedadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03100297654782210578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-34305658845062966392016-11-21T09:30:25.880-05:002016-11-21T09:30:25.880-05:00I'm going to say that everything I type below,...I'm going to say that everything I type below, and everything in the original post, includes my knowledge that most of the worst of what Trump said doesn't apply to me. It would be easy as a hetero white male to brush off misogyny, sexism, and racism. I get that.<br /><br />I hope my post didn't appear to reject individual concerns. I get that some individuals are scared. Probably rightfully so. <br /><br />I was shocked at the result. I went to bed a little uneasy and woke with a pit in my stomach. <br /><br />Maybe it didn't come across, but the post was aimed more at the "end of our country" and "end of our democracy" panic crowd. That was part of the whole line about: "If you think the country or life is over because we elected Trump Tuesday, then you really don't believe in that system, you believe in the cult of personality of the presidency.<br /><br />You fight the policies as they come. <br /><br />Clinton wasn't an angelic figure, she was a human who has also done and said awful things. Trump has said worse things, its true. But you fight the individual policy and individual actions. Trump has been pro-gay rights longer than Hillary Clinton, for instance. I get that there are like probably 100 reasons why it was easier for Trump than Clinton, and that Clinton may have been hiding her true preference all those years, but the fact remains. People get all worked up over Trump's wall like we don't already have a wall that Hillary voted for. Trump wanting a bigger wall isn't a big deal to me (his idiotic and racist comments about the need for a wall aside). <br /><br />I guess that was what I was saying when I said "move on." Lets focus on the battles before us, not that some less-worse-in-some-ways candidate lost.<br />Triplethedadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03100297654782210578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-29434888506019859342016-11-20T10:12:38.873-05:002016-11-20T10:12:38.873-05:00**It should say "Japanese Americans / America...**It should say "Japanese Americans / Americans of Japanese descent" rather than Japanese**Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03968117352606424164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-5070204632865092852016-11-20T10:11:12.869-05:002016-11-20T10:11:12.869-05:00"But we have had awful people do awful things..."But we have had awful people do awful things as president before and survived."<br /><br />Yes, the country as a whole has survived. However, it could also be said that Germany survived having Hitler as a ruler and the Japanese survived being put in "internment" camps during WWII. Except for all the people who didn't survive that. And the families that were broken up and the lives that were horribly disrupted by being taken from their homes to be put into camps.<br /><br />But I'm sure Muslims don't have anything to worry about, even if the registry previous broke up families by only sending males home. <br />http://www.vox.com/policy-and-politics/2016/11/16/13649764/trump-muslim-register-database<br /><br />But I suppose your daughter doesn't have to worry about that. And yes, the US will likely survive it. And yes, it might not be as bad as it seems from this side of history. And yes, the government has a system of checks and balances to keep terrible things from happening. But unfortunately as the Japanese internment camps shows, sometimes they happen anyway. (I won't even touch EVERYTHING involving the native people.)<br /><br />Maybe it'll be good to have all of this out in the open and shoved into the light, but I think simply saying "we'll survive" makes it too easy to turn a blind eye on the bad things that can happen. Although obviously this isn't something you'd bring up to your wee one, I just voice caution in spreading the mentality of "it's going to be fine, we've always survived so far" too much.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03968117352606424164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-31218005668444055452016-08-25T10:05:12.263-04:002016-08-25T10:05:12.263-04:00Thanks for stopping by!Thanks for stopping by!Triplethedadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03100297654782210578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-36056935199227084802016-08-11T10:55:27.801-04:002016-08-11T10:55:27.801-04:00I continue to see comments and sometimes articles ...I continue to see comments and sometimes articles with the idea that not having kids is the right thing, because the world will be so awful for them (usually from a climate change perspective, but others as well). I probably see that more due to my reading list, but its out there.<br /><br />There really isn't a point in comparing them. But people do it. ALL THE TIME:<br /><br />"back in my day" <br />"I remember when" <br />"We never locked our door" <br />"Kids these days (which compares back)"<br /><br />I'd argue with the "bleak" perspective, but to each their own. I think life on Earth is pretty grand for all but a moderate percentage of people alive today.<br /><br />And I'm not saying all is well, or progress isn't important. I think I actually say that exact thing in the post: "And yes, we have serious issues to address and important problems with which to grapple." <br /><br />Because while we have still have real issues to address, pretending the past was better is both wrong AND dangerous. Wrong because of facts, and dangerous because believing the past was better suggests those norms, mores and rules were maybe better - and they weren't. And if we allow ourselves to believe that we are somehow less safe today than our parents, we make laws and rules based on those (wrong) beliefs, which threaten our children's actual lives.Triplethedadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03100297654782210578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-17909167441840795062016-08-11T10:43:15.235-04:002016-08-11T10:43:15.235-04:00Social pressure!
I was talking about the gifts we...Social pressure!<br /><br />I was talking about the gifts we got them alone, but yeah, the kids aren't lacking. And they better not feel shorted!Triplethedadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03100297654782210578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-51693344353369792632016-07-27T21:06:39.877-04:002016-07-27T21:06:39.877-04:00The only thing I'd argue with you here is that...The only thing I'd argue with you here is that you're covering three very broad topics in this short blog post. You touch upon 1. the world is bleak 2. this isn't a reason to not have kids 3. the wold is better/worse than it was.<br /><br />2. Yeah, I don't think the state of the world is a reason to not have kids. Unless you knew the world was going to end in ten years (definitely). Then that'd be sorta crummy thing to do.<br /><br />3. There's really no point in comparing today to "back in the old day" whether you come to a positive conclusion or not. The point is what are the problems we're facing today. I'm not saying we shouldn't be glad of the progress we've made, but just because there's progress doesn't mean the journey is over. To say "well, things are better now" makes it sound like the journey is over. It's not, and we need to be careful about spreading too much of that mentality, as well as worrying about spreading too much of a "we need to go back to the good ol' days" (Also, I have a feeling the people saying that latter quote are a very specific subset of people who didn't fear for their lives because of class, race, etc back in the "good ol days". But anyway.)<br /><br />The world is bleak, and I think you make some good points (and I'm not trying to be a doomsday crier), I think to ignore the bleakness of the world is to avoid trying to fix what's wrong with the world. I don't think you mean to sound like those incidents you mentioned weren't important and horrible, but the way they're brushed off as "well, it's not any worse than it was" kind of diminishes the terrible things that happened/continue to happen. <br /><br />I guess what I'm trying to say is: Just because things are better doesn't mean they're all right.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03968117352606424164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-19389481073828859902016-07-27T18:59:32.611-04:002016-07-27T18:59:32.611-04:00...and yet you handed out gift bags to the kids wh......and yet you handed out gift bags to the kids who came to your party :P<br /><br />Also, while I definitely don't want to short the kids, at this age, at least, if they're sharing a fair number of the toys fairly evenly and are likely to "grow out of them" fairly quickly, I don't think a smaller haul of presents (per child) is a bad thing. If there's a lot of overlap in playing with stuff, then they are getting their toys, but also the toys of their siblings. As long as THEY don't feel shorted, it should be fine. (And with all the presents they get from family and friends, I'm sure they don't feel shorted!)<br /><br />Obviously when they're older and their interests are more unique, the idea of "sharing gifts" won't be as possible and they'll be more aware of how many presents other kids get on their birthdays (possibly). But for now? I think your kids have plenty of presents to unwrap on their birthday ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03968117352606424164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-74375975366418329512016-07-01T17:06:35.615-04:002016-07-01T17:06:35.615-04:00Thanks got linking up to #justanotherlinky xxThanks got linking up to #justanotherlinky xxSomething Crunchy Mummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07264833782161097483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-66152576409957303362016-07-01T17:06:22.260-04:002016-07-01T17:06:22.260-04:00This is brilliant!! XxThis is brilliant!! XxSomething Crunchy Mummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07264833782161097483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-53532881805417699832016-06-10T11:26:20.736-04:002016-06-10T11:26:20.736-04:00Haha brilliant - my boys are I to shopkins and in ...Haha brilliant - my boys are I to shopkins and in my eyes they are useless lol. Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xxSomething Crunchy Mummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07264833782161097483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-80137727828857046412016-04-27T11:00:19.324-04:002016-04-27T11:00:19.324-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17948090444618041419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-38900630990986659852016-04-22T16:14:54.368-04:002016-04-22T16:14:54.368-04:00Thanks for stopping by.
I didn't really even...Thanks for stopping by. <br /><br />I didn't really even realize how much that +1 mattered. Before we had triplets it seemed like twins +1 couldn't be that bad. And its not, and yet it is. That +1 really does make a world of difference and up the learning curve.<br /><br />Sickness is the worst, right behind not sleeping again!<br /><br />Get well.Triplethedadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03100297654782210578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-31539917101051321692016-04-22T14:26:43.470-04:002016-04-22T14:26:43.470-04:00Right there with ya - we had pneumonia/RSV with ou...Right there with ya - we had pneumonia/RSV with our 3 right after they turned a year. Then hubby, MIL, and I all got sick 2-3 times. Last night was our worst night so far - all three up at different points, one of our girls screaming unless she was held. I got about 3 hours of sleep. Even people with twins can't imagine how much harder +1 is. Keep your chin up! I turned 40 while on bed rest in the hospital with my trips... Yay. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-30635859767681783902016-02-25T10:44:59.308-05:002016-02-25T10:44:59.308-05:00Interesting. Not too long ago I had a writer reach...Interesting. Not too long ago I had a writer reach out to me for insights and quotes for a magazine article. It all fell apart when she and I realized that it was about parenting in the UK.<br /><br />Apparently my Tweet line and blog read British, even to British speaking people!Triplethedadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03100297654782210578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-28298123636715604612016-02-24T20:56:56.531-05:002016-02-24T20:56:56.531-05:00Hmmm...one of your kids is covered on the name thi...Hmmm...one of your kids is covered on the name thing.<br /><br />Also, for reasons unknown to me, I (naturally) used (some) British spellings and punctuation until college when I realize it was a problem and what I was doing. Before I thought I just couldn't get the hang of spelling judgement and acknowledgement. So obviously this runs in the family :DAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03968117352606424164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-35821528286042957862016-02-17T16:26:24.974-05:002016-02-17T16:26:24.974-05:00Thanks to both of you for stopping by. You post so...Thanks to both of you for stopping by. You post something like this, and then your kids go on a 5 day tear where they are just absolutely wonderful, you are getting rest, and you think "what the heck was wrong"? Triplethedadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03100297654782210578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-32100035672120073762016-02-12T17:38:47.077-05:002016-02-12T17:38:47.077-05:00I can only say learn to forgive yourself for not b...I can only say learn to forgive yourself for not being a perfect Dad or parent. And seek help because there is loads out there and then you will feel less isolated at least. Hope that helps a bitkateonthinicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08506288402799764435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-48035216664021077862016-02-12T13:22:38.932-05:002016-02-12T13:22:38.932-05:00Sorry to hear about your rough days. Thanks for li...Sorry to hear about your rough days. Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xxSomething Crunchy Mummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07264833782161097483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-52556975414960422142016-02-09T11:34:14.057-05:002016-02-09T11:34:14.057-05:00Thanks! I've posted recently about some of the...Thanks! I've posted recently about some of the funny things kids say. Its hilarious. Just this morning my daughter asked if God can see his feet. How do you answer that? <br /><br />Thanks for stopping by and commenting!Triplethedadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03100297654782210578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-161328991027726422016-02-08T22:44:10.962-05:002016-02-08T22:44:10.962-05:00I love your dialogue! Ha! Typical. I have been kee...I love your dialogue! Ha! Typical. I have been keeping a list of all the funny things my son says, which is a little different than the aggravation of three incessantly curious four-year-olds, but when they say hilarious things and it makes me smile, it makes all the craziness bearable, and I laugh, and pray I will remember the cuteness and the overwhelming love in that moment. One recent one was: "Will God be at my birthday party?". Or "Next time I'm bigger I'm gonna vacuum myself!" And "If the kitty goes under water and the shark comes I'm gonna protect it and throw the shark and octopus butt. And I'm gonna wear my goggles goggles goggles." And he always calls me his Mommy Sweetheart. :) These are the moments, my friend, that make all the craziness worth it. Hang in there.CNoellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03702895703119260702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-21591113443741564132016-02-05T16:52:58.954-05:002016-02-05T16:52:58.954-05:00Thanks. I added it after the post went up, so it p...Thanks. I added it after the post went up, so it probably wasn't there when you looked the first time.<br /><br />I get over things easily enough, but yeah, its hard for me to break out of the moment.Triplethedadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03100297654782210578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-85424864490099128552016-02-05T13:35:35.213-05:002016-02-05T13:35:35.213-05:00I know what you mean. Just gotta push through thou...I know what you mean. Just gotta push through though. I myself had a few terrible days two weeks ago for no reason whatsoever, and I feel so guilty when that happens, but I am not one of those people who can just snap out of it, and I guess you are not either. Cute pic, btw! Did I miss it before or did you just add it?CNoellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03702895703119260702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4762930168389949250.post-5991606439543990162016-02-05T08:55:00.365-05:002016-02-05T08:55:00.365-05:00Thanks for the comment. After those two tough days...Thanks for the comment. After those two tough days we had a string of good ones- which is the way it goes. I just wish I could help those bad ones not be so bad.The Triplet Dadhttp://triplethedad.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com